Observing myself

I am in the middle of listening to a podcast on Dr James Dobson's Family Talk radio show.  I was intrigued by the title "What is is like being married to me?".  His guest is Linda Dillow who has authored a book on this very subject.  The podcast is three sessions, so I won't go into everything, but I will say it got me to thinking about my actions and attitudes in my own marriage.  So often, we want to blame our bad attitudes on our spouse.   You know the "well how else am I supposed to feel when he does (or doesn't do!) ____" excuse.   Or, "if he would just be more____, then I could be more ____."  The author quotes Ben Franklin "Observe all men, thyself most."  Her point is that rather than focus on our spouse, we need to turn the light and magnifying glass onto ourselves ----observe the way we act and react, observe how we speak to our husbands and observe our behavior in the ways we interact with him.  Change begins with me.  I know I am not the worst wife but I also realize I fall short if a few areas.  The great thing is that as I change for the better in the way I respond to my husband,  I can almost bet it will result in some positive changes from him as well.   There is a  verse in Romans that  has been coming up quite a bit lately in some things I am reading and listening to and I think it applies to this topic as well.   Romans 12:18  If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all
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